One benefit of alone time with one of the twins is that you have an opportunity to bond with the particular twin and in the process, you get an opportunity to learn the personality of the particular twin and the twin will have an opportunity to learn about your personality. You will also gain a certain level of confidence in your ability to care for and nurture each of the twins. Alone time with one twin should provide you with insight that will assist you in engaging those processes and procedures that serve to strengthen the relationship between you, the twin and the rest of the family.

During your alone time, you can focus on only a single twin so that walks and outings are easily managed and you may direct your focus to that single individual rather than two individuals. You will get an opportunity to ask questions and then get answers and opinions without any outside influence. With time, you will learn how the child responds to conflicts and crisis and the child will understand how you respond to them. Even more, the child will learn how dad differs from mom by having alone time with each parent in the same manner that moms and dads learn how twins differ from each other by having individual alone time with each of them.

The more alone time spent with each of the twins, the more solid the relationship between you and each of the twins. Alone time does not have to include a carefully planned outing that requires additional or excessive expenses. It could be time spent just reading a book together, taking a walk together to the store, working on a craft project together or making a visit to the neighborhood park together. In fact, unstructured time that does not involve rushing to meet schedules, deadlines or other persons is encouraged for alone time. If an outing is planned, but the weather does not cooperate, you should always have another option in mind to readily put into place.

Parents and caregivers who are new to the concept of alone time should be sure to have the basic baby necessities on hand, such as diapers, wipes, etc. to ensure that the alone time is not interrupted or unnecessarily stressed. While the time that it takes to engage in a diaper change may be considered alone time, you may not want the child to consistently experience a panic situation. Not knowing how to change a diaper or not knowing where to find diapers or wipes and then displaying frustration over the event may defeat the true purpose of alone time. Also, alone time should be scheduled within the context of the child's schedule. For example, alone time should not coincide with the child's normally scheduled naptime. A sleepy child may become more irritated than interested in your chosen activity. While it is good for a child to experience all aspects of your personality, you should make an effort to ensure that alone time is healthy and beneficial to both you and the child.

References:

http://www.typeamom.net/give-each-twin-some-alone-time-with-mom.html

http://www.dadstoday.com/articles/parenting-strategies/the-benefits-of-father-toddler-alone-time-615/2/